"Hearts Ever Entwined, Love Ever Burning"
- Published on Monday, 28 May 2012 21:30
- Written by Dianne Cogar
( - June and Stan - May 2002 - )
"Hearts Ever Entwined, Love Ever Burning"
Your gentle smile, and caring heart reminds me everyday,
Our love could only grow more beautiful in a very special way.
Those years still linger in my mind, Our marriage tells it all...
Your love meant all the world to me, and mine for you shall stand forever tall.
The memory of our first embrace, the memory of a first sweet kiss,
Are shadowed in a distant past, but things I will forever miss.
Your memory keeps my heart entralled...
Your vision's all I have today for God had early called.
I know He's watching over you, I'm sure you're His delight..
For angels, great, fly high and long and guard us day and night.
I love you June, though you're now gone, And heaven has you there,
Entwined we are, heart to heart... for you, I'll always care.
Now in the night, when dreams take place, your face is all I see
But I trust God is asking you to watch down over me
I know you'll keep me in your sight, and I know you love me too...
Our years are branded in my mind, your love has never gone...
Yes, in my heart, entwined with yours, our time will linger on.
It seems like an eternity since God took you from me...
but our love is a love that is cherished for all the world to see!
October marks the saddest hour, when God came to prepare...
Heaven's induction of my lovely June and put her in his care.
My thoughts of June will never fade, This world has just stopped turning...
Though hearts, entwined; this Love God made...Will ever go on burning.
Written by Dianne Cogar, Springfield, Ohio
(Legacy Poet - HeartLeaks Poetry)
"Dianne, how touchingly beautiful ...I thank you in behalf of myself and June...I am stunned by what you have done...thanks is hardly enough for your generosity and kindness...Stan" (Legacy Poet Dianne Cogar wrote this beautiful Poem about June and our marriage…Dianne did this out of the goodness of her heart, receiving no pay or compensation…Her creation was simply a kind and generous gift to June and myself. ...25 May 2012)
Photo Notes: The above photo of June and Stan was taken in May of 2002 and is one of Stan's favorite marriage photos. While 2002 was June's 5th year of Alzheimer's, June was doing fine and appeared to still be in the early stages of the disease. June would struggle on for almost another 6 years before losing her battle with Alzheimer's. June and I also celebrated our 50th Wedding anniversary that year (2002). Our trip log for 2002 indicated that June and I had a very active travel schedule with 10 trips including forensic science conferences at such places as Atlanta, San Antonio and Harrisburg, PA.
June and Alzheimer's
June’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis came in January 1998. June knew at a very early date, the blackness and the depth of the distant approaching Alzheimer’s storm clouds. She displayed a concern for me. I remember well that Sunday (Ca. 1999) when she brought home the “Care Notes” pamphlet from our church - “Handling Grief as a Man.” She said nothing; just left it out for me to find and to read. I remember the time that she detected one of my episodes of emotional sadness as I watched her illness progress. She tried to console me by saying “Don’t worry, I will be alright Stan!” I am sure at the time, we both really knew otherwise.
Thereafter, I lost June slowly, tear drop by tear drop during her long and exhausting journey into the shadows of Alzheimer’s that lasted almost 11 years.
For the first 7 plus years I took care of June at our home. The first 5 years of these years were relatively easy years that only required accommodation for her short term memory problems. We continued to travel extensively and did the many things we had put off in past years. In Years 6 and 7 the disease started closing in on us as we saw June’s personality changes and eventually hallucinations and behavioral changes. In year 8, June went into a nursing home. As the disease progressed she had seizures, lost ability to walk or talk, had difficulty swallowing, eating, and became incontinent. During the last year and a half, she rarely opened her eyes or even responded. Aspiration pneumonia a common Alzheimer’s complication ended her life.
June gave me a lifetime of unconditional love during our 56 year’s marriage and a life with only the regret that it is now over and that June has had to suffer the horrors of Alzheimer's. I owe her and God an unending debt! Her passing was as if a most beautiful symphony that played during our life together, had now ceased to exist! Before her Alzheimer's diagnosis our world and her character and personality were represented by a vast sea of bright and beautiful lights. After her Alzheimer's diagnosis, these bright lights all begin to slowly dim. As June slowly slipped deeper into the shadows of Alzheimer's, the lights gradually flickered out one by one. Eventually the time came during the last two years of her life, when the brightness that marked our world and June’s life was replaced by one of darkness. June rarely ever opened her eyes to a world that was then alien and strange to her. June had become so tired, exhausted and weary that in the last year of her life she lay like a wounded soldier on a battlefield. God mercifully took June home on the 23rd of October 2008. June's passing leaves me with an emptiness that can never be filled!
Stan’s Introductory Comments: By publishing these “Reader’s Comments,” it is not my intention to in any way suggest that the marriage relationship and the love that June and I had/have for each other and experienced during our lifetime together is in any way superior to similar relationships of other’s. It is merely a collection of the reactions of readers to this page in June’s website. Some are simple appreciative comments; some are generous and kind comments reflecting the care and concern of others. Some comments are a sharing of the reader’s own experiences. Many reflect the love of God. These comments often reflect the human and the caring side of the readers. It is my hope that if June is able to look in on us, that she can see and understand how much I appreciate the love and the life that she gave to me and that I miss her very much…there will never be another to take her place! If anyone is searching for evidence of a caring and loving God, need they look further then these reader's comments?
Ursula Zarecki Sypniewski - Toms River, New Jersey - (29 May 2012): "What a beautiful poem! It was definitely meant for you and June! Had teary eyes while reading it."
Nidhin Das S - Cochin, Kerala, India - (29 May 2012): "Hearts Tied Together Forever With Love...God Bless You!"
Debbie Larsen - Buffalo, Minnesota - (29 May 2012): "This is so beautiful, its a love story that will continue forever, Stan and June, two hearts that became one love for eternity."
Patricia Higgins -Glasgow, Scotland, UK - (29 May 2012): "Beautiful Poem for a very special couple."
Michelle Hall Miller - Irvington, Alabama - (29 May 2012): "She did a wonderful homage to your life and love with June!"
Beth Ann Doucette -Lino Lakes, Minnesota - (29 May 2012): "This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing."
Angela LeMay - BBC Cornwall, United Kingdom - (30 May 2012): "I feel a film coming up."
Valentina Dose -Waupaca, Wisconsin - (24 September 2012):"It really is a beautiful poem."
Anthea Young - East London, Eastern Cape, United Kingdom - (16 November 2012): "BEAUTIFUL and HEART WARMING POEM! - Thank you, kindly for sharing."
Bertha Dusenberry - Ridgewood, New Jersey - (16 November 2012): "Ohhh so very touching Stan. What a beautiful and special lady June must have been...and what a wonderful loving couple you were. She just looks like she would have been one very special, caring, loving lady.Thank you for sharing."
Marion Reinartz - Cologne, Germany - (17 November 2012): "Thanks for sharing Stan ...I like it!"
Vicki Cadogan - Limerick, Ireland - (17 November 2012): "Beautiful Stan, brought a few tears to my eyes. What a great love ye had and will have again."
Timothy Hayes - Dublin, Ireland - (17 November 2012):"It is beautiful Stan, a living memory, touched my heart. God bless."
Melanie Jean Gardiner - Sidarion, Kerkira, Greece - (18 November 2012): "Wonderful Stan..."
June's funeral notice as published in the Minneapolis Star in October 2008 can be seen on this website under the "In Memoriam" label - Click on: